Some people may tell you that your bachelor life is well and truly over when you get a girlfriend and it becomes steady and you have to become a little more selfless in your actions. Or even when you become serious and do crazy things like move in together. Perhaps your bachelor life is over that first time your girlfriend tells you you can't go out and get drunk at the pub with your mates as she wants you to spend the evening with her watching X-Factor and eating ice-cream.
I guess technically your bachelor life is over when you get married.
I have been having some thoughts recently. I am starting to think that bachelorhood - that precious thing that we all hang onto - that small feeling that you are still (at least partially) in control of your life, is officially over when your parents first come into contact with those of your other half.
Beyond this point in life, you can no longer argue pointlessly with your significant other. You have to begin to accept defeat graciously from time to time. You have to agree to things like going to the cinema and watching 'House Bunny' and 'Mama Mia' even though you have to bury your head in your partners arm the whole way through to avoid excessive cringing / puking or both (as was recently discovered).
The chances of your relationship breaking up past this pivotal point significantly diminish. There is literally no escape. And for one reason ...
Shame.
For beyond this moment in your life you are subject to fear of shame. You have created a network in which you are ensnared.
A network of powerful women.
Beyond this moment should something happen, be it something so trivial as going out with your friends one too many times, be it something more important like blowing your life savings on hookers and cocaine and falling asleep in your own vomit - your actions are subject to judgement by that most powerful jury.
Your mother, your partner, your potential future mother-in-law. All working as one.
You can't fight that!
This weekend I take the step.
17th September 1983 Part Two
8 months ago
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To someone half reading this, that almost sounded like you were planning on proposing.
When does this monumental meeting take place? Are you going to be able to make it to ours at any point for Evan's birthday?
good luck..when you'll take the next step..just be sure to put in some 'small letters' in any document you sign.
For now..I hope you survive this weekend haha
About time too.
You can't be happy for the rest of your life you know.
Its not fair on the rest of us.
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